It is often interesting to look at the roles that people play in our lives. When we stop and realise the important parts played by individuals, we can stop judging them in relation to everyone else.
Some friends keep you feeling young; others prop you up when you’re feeling down; some are key to making us feel ‘normal’; while others keep us ‘real’; and we all need the responsible friend who remind us that its sensible to make the choices that we make.
- All sounds wonderful, until you start to look at the things you don’t appreciate…
- the one who keeps you feeling young is often the one who you call ‘irresponsible’;
- the one who props you up when you’re feeling down may sometimes leave you feeling that they haven’t listened to you properly;
- the ‘normal’ friends irritate you because their bad habits are too close to home;
- the one who keeps you real can sometimes be a bit blunt and honest, a trait that you call ‘rude’; and
- the poor responsible friend, they are labelled as ‘boring’.
“If we take the time to identify the traits that we need, want and love in our friends/family we can stop expecting them to be someone else.”
So when we are feeling down and in need of some cheer, we will call our ‘prop up friend’ rather than one of the others.
There is no point calling Mr Sensible, when you’re in a need of a good night of youthful fun. And we need to stop setting up Miss Fun by expecting her to listen to our deep and meaningful rant about our life choices. Take the time to realise why you have chosen the people in your life, and appreciate them for the magic that they bring when it is there time to shine!
Or perhaps we need to look at our own traits, what we offer to others… and stop trying to be everyone’s everything!
What do you think? Do you feel judged by your friends by who you are?
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